Pretty little pumpkins

As a person who loves moderate temperatures, I prefer autumn’s cool breezes to summer’s sun or winter’s chill. I also love all things pumpkin: itty bitty ornamental pumpkins, Jack o’lanterns, harvest corn and all that jazz. There’s just something about the yellow, reds and oranges of the season that make me a happy camper. That and I love pumpkin and apple goodies that are so prolific this time of year.

The Little Empress also seems to enjoy this time of the year, especially the pumpkins. She’s been crowing, “Pa-tee, pa-tee” (her way of saying “pumpkin”) every day. Sadly, we didn’t get a chance to go to the local pumpkin farm this year due to rain. Luckily, TLE’s school has been helping to fill the pumpkin void! During the month, she’s gotten at least a pumpkin a week. One week, the kids painted mini-pumpkins. Another time, they received more (unpainted) mini-pumpkins in their cubbies. And this past week, the kids got to pick their very own pumpkin from a little “pumpkin patch” that was set up on the school grounds. As you can see, TLE was absolutely thrilled with her pumpkin. (She fell asleep moments later, cuddling the pumpkin as she napped!)

TLE and her pumpkin

Her school also had a costumed “Harvest Parade” for the kiddies on Friday morning. Her school has students from about 18 months to four year olds so there was a pretty diverse mix of kids. Her class of toddlers were pulled by their teachers in wagons so the little ones wouldn’t get tired from parading around the playground. TLE loved it and enjoyed waving to her public. I wasn’t sure what to dress her as since she really doesn’t have any preferences. I ended up using a princess costume I’d bought for her last year but that she didn’t get to use. I know, I know, I’m usually so anti-princess but at home, she ran around with an inflatable sword with her costume. (I didn’t let her have the sword while at school since she’d just be a hazard with it.)

"No, Mom!" No pictures for this princess!

While I’d love to give TLE the full-blown trick or treating experience that I had as a kid — staying out all night, hitting all the neighborhoods and not stopping until the bag could hold no more — that just isn’t an option where we live. Luckily, there were plenty of free family friendly events put on by the community and churches as alternatives to nighttime trick or treating. We opted to go to the Halloween event at the local outdoor shopping mall.It is a relatively new shopping center and the second year they’ve held the event. There were a few free events for the kids, including a “haunted” bus and a converted bus made into a kid’s gym that TLE normally loves, as well as a bouncy slide thing.

Sadly, the event ended up being pretty lackluster for us though it looked like there was a pretty good overall turnout. We did get there too late to participate in the trick or treating since TLE ended up taking a late nap. One thing I noticed was that not all of the retailers actually participated in the one hour trick-or-treating window for the community kids. I got really irked when I saw signs that had “No Candy but Shoppers are Welcome.” I really wish I’d had the foresight to bring a notebook or to take photos of the establishments that weren’t participating. I know it is voluntary but seriously, how hard can it be to station one of the workers at the door for just an hour with a bucket of candy. Hell, pass out fliers for your next sale with the candy if you want. A “No Candy but Shoppers are Welcome” sign essentially tells me to “F*ck off, we don’t want your kids in here.” Okay fine, I won’t come in on Hallowe’en OR any other time of the year, for that matter.

There was also a pumpkin patch which had several inflatable rides but the prices were ridiculous! It was $5 for 5 minutes on ONE ride or $10 for an hour on unlimited rides. I was horrified to see that, despite the prices, there was little supervision of the inflatables that I could see. Little kids were packed in with rambunctious older kids.  I refused to pay that much for the inflatables, especially with no real supervision aside from the parents and no separation to keep the wee ones safe. TLE tried, briefly, to get into the free inflatable but wisely decided it wasn’t for her despite the fact she really wanted to play in the jumpy. (Meanwhile, I was beginning to panic as I saw a group of older kids storm the jumpy just as she had climbed into it.) We lined up for the tumble bus but half an hour (in the sun) later, we got to the end of the line and she melted down in tears and clung to me, refusing to get on. *sigh* We searched for some food at the event but only found two tiny stands, selling over priced hot dogs and slices of pizza. No thanks. Luckily, we found a frozen yogurt store and ended up getting some yogurt to cool down.

The afternoon wasn’t a total waste. TLE really loves music so when she heard the live band kick in, she grabbed my hands and insisted that we dance. I took her to the center of the shopping mall where we hung around the fountain and she alternately danced to the music and gazed into the fountain pool.

Introspective

All in all, not a bad Hallowe’en at all! We may not have gotten to go to a lot of events or a proper trick or treating session but I think we’re not doing too badly for fun!

And… a random shot of my chain link fence to prove that I do, occasionally, take photos of that are not of The Little Empress.

We’re definitely not the only family to do so. A recent article on CNN talks about a study that shows that 82 percent of kids under 2 have an online presence.

While the Internet makes it easy to share photos of your newest family member with far flung relatives and friends, the fact remains that these innocent photos of your child can also be a privacy risk. Here’s a few ways to keep your little one’s identity safe from the very start.

Use privacy filters. Photo services like Facebook, Flickr, Shutterfly and more have privacy filters that allow you to control who sees your photos.

Do not label photos with sensitive information. Sensitive information can include your child’s full name, birth date, birth place, etc.

Obscure any personal information that may be visible in the photo. New parents may want to rethink sharing the photo of their newborn the hospital isolette as information including the baby’s name, family surname and even delivering doctor may be in full view. Choose to share another photo that does not contain any sensitive information.

Ask friends and family NOT to share photos of your little one without your permission. This is harder to control — especially with excited grandparents — but (gently) explain why you would like to control where your child’s photos are seen.

BONUS TIP: It is popular on some parenting communities to share the names and ages of your children in your signatures. If you do this, use nicknames to identify your children rather than their names.

Homemade Adobo Sliders on Pandesal

Chicken & Spinach Ranch Pizza on Whole Wheat Crust

Everday Chocolate Cake (from the Smitten Kitchen's recipe)

Here’s the original recipe for SK’s Everyday Chocolate Cake.

A long time ago, we got a large yellow rubber ducky blow up bath for The Little Empress. She bathed in it from the time she could sit up until she was a little over a year old. Since then, it has been retired to life as a diaper holder in our master bathroom.

For whatever reason, The Little Empress decided on Friday night that Mr. Ducky is the bestest. toy. ever. and insisted that Daddy bring Mr. Ducky downstairs for her to play with. Daddy complied and TLE spent the rest of the night toting this rubber duck bath tub with her everywhere she went. Mr. Ducky is easily just about as big as her and quite unwieldy but TLE still insisted on toting him around.

TLE thanking Daddy for bringing Mr. Ducky downstairs

On Sunday afternoon, TLE was playing on and off with Mr. Ducky as well as just running around like a maniac, per usual. Oddly, she’d chosen a pair of pink footie pajamas as her outfit of the day. (This after wearing mismatching pajamas when we went out yesterday. I let her out in public in the most horrific of outfits but she’s so proud to do so. Who am I to stop her?) Eventually, she settled down (somewhat) to watch a few episodes of Futurama with Daddy while I attempted to wade through my work backlog. It was a nice change of pace as The Hubs ™ has been working 12+ hour days for the past two weeks so I think both of them were happy to have some bonding time.

About an hour into Futurama, I hear The Hubs ™ call out.

“Uh, honey? We’ve got a situation here.”

Situation, huh? I pushed back my chair and started to make my way out of the office when The Little Empress ran out right in front of me. Grinning, she handed me the diaper off of her naked butt and then promptly ran off. According to The Hubs ™, she had suddenly tired of her pink footies and decided that she wanted to run around nekkid. She continued to run around the rest of the afternoon, happily bouncing from chair to ottoman and to the floor again, reveling in the awesomeness of being nekkid. It took me about two hours to convince her to at least wear a diaper. (I’ll defend other families’ decision to EC but we are definitely NOT an EC household!!)

TLE & Mr. Ducky

Oh well. At least I got a few photos to embarrass her with later in life. And really, isn’t that what digital cameras in the hands of mothers is all about??

As predicted, TLE fussed enough during the ceremony that I had to take her outside not once but twice. The ride to the church was pretty long and the wedding was delayed for about half an hour so by the time the ceremony started, she had run through her tiny little well of toddler patience. The Hubs ™ offered to take her but TLE was starting to (loudly) crow for boob. I was left with the options of either ignoring her cries and letting her fuss, with the cry of “BOOB” ringing throughout the church or I could give in. I gave in for the sake of Blackberry’s wedding. This meant that I ended up missing a good chunk of the ceremony.

Of course, I brought along my dSLR. Blackberry had asked me months ago if I’d be their photographer. I declined because 1) I’m not that great of a photographer and 2) wrangling The Little Empress usually prevents me from doing anything other than, well, wrangling her. As it so happened, there was a communication mixup and our friend that she thought was going to photograph the wedding didn’t get the invite. (Ooops.) So the backup photographer ended up being the primary photographer while I ended up supplementing some shots.

I didn’t get quite as many photos as I would have liked. I was far too afraid of getting in someone’s way, blocking someone’s view or otherwise ruining someone’s experience to get in to get some of the shots I would have liked. I think this is why I know I could never be a great photographer. Great photographers aren’t afraid to get the shot. I’m a chickensh!t. Despite that, this chickensh!t photographer did at least get some decent shots, including one of Blackberry as she took her mom’s arm to walk her down the aisle. Blackberry later told me that she had only a handful of photos with her mom so this one would be extra special.

While I won’t share photos of the couple online, here’s a few shots I took of the decor and what not…

Bouqets on the train

Flowers at the church

Reception table decor

And of course, I have to include at least one picture of TLE and Daddy at the wedding.

TLE and Daddy

J U M P !

After somewhat wearing her out at the gymnastics center, we headed off to Lolo & Lola’s house so she could get some quality time with her grandparents while I got some quality time (and aggravated my carpal tunnel) with my keyboard. Ugh, deadlines. But at least I got to take a quick break to get a photo or two. Here, my mom is holding her (you can see her hand trying to tickle TLE to make her smile. Didn’t work.) while posing her with a photo that her teacher took of her last week. One photo has nothing to do with the other but I think it looks funny. (Plus, I love the crooked, upside down sunglasses in the photo she’s holding. Classic toddler action!)

Double TLE

Later on, TLE decided it was time to practice piano. It is horribly out of tune right now but that didn’t stop TLE from playing. She looooooooves the piano at my parents’ house. Someday, we will move it to our house once we get the money for the move and a good tuning.

TLE and the piano

She got very into her piano playing at one point, banging on the keys with the utmost purpose. I see a tortured artist musician in the making…

Future experimental pianist

I try to hit up a Farmer’s Market or farmer’s stand at least every week or so, to take advantage of the fresh produce we have in this area. There are at least three Farmers Markets within ten miles of us and a countless number of family owned farm stands. (Antioch may be maligned for being way the hell out in nowhere land but it does have its advantages.) The Concord Farmer’s Market isn’t one of the close by Farmers Markets but it is my current favorite due to its location. Todos Santos is a beautiful city square with a park, kids play area and is surrounded by a good selection of shops. These shops include Half Price Books and Peet’s Coffee which is damn near my version of heaven already. Adding a twice weekly Farmers Market on top of it is just icing on the cake! The location is full of mature trees for shade so after meandering through the Farmers Market, you can sit on the grass and let your kid play while you enjoy some fresh produce and whatever hot food happens to be at the market that day.

The Little Empress and I wandered through Half Price Books for a bit before hitting up the Farmers Market. While I’m not nearly as much of a bibliophile as other folks I know, book stores and libraries seriously make me happy and I can stay there for hours. TLE is still a bit young and got restless and I was getting hungry so I decided to head out to find something to eat. There were a bunch of great hot food stalls to choose from, including Argentine Empanadas, tamales, wood fired pizza, gourmet hot dogs… yummy. I decided on a gyro which I thought TLE would like but she didn’t. Alas, no photo of the gyro as it disappeared into my gaping maw way too quickly. It was delicious.

We relaxed on the grass for a bit. Next week, I’ll have to remember to bring a good blanket to sit on as well as a ball for TLE to kick around. I’d thought that she would have wanted to play on the play structure but she was (surprisingly) uninterested. (Lucky for me. The play structure is meant for kids 5+ rather than the toddler set. That usually doesn’t stop TLE who is a total daredevil.) Instead, she entertained herself by watching other kids and running around on the grass near me.

TLE dancing on the grass

Soon enough, she tired of the grass and signed frantically for “apples” which is her way of asking for fruit. It took some convincing to get her back in her stroller. I normally don’t take a stroller anywhere but Farmers Markets are SO much easier to navigate with a stroller rather than carrying her on my back while carrying groceries. (Plus, have you ever had a toddler eating a plum while in a back carry? I personally find the sensation of dripping plum juice down my neck to be decidedly NOT PLEASANT.)

We wandered up and down the aisles of the Farmers Market, looking at all the yummy and delicious fruits. I like to make at least one round of the offerings, to see what’s being offered at what prices. Summer farmer’s markets are always the best, full of stone fruit, delicious berries and awesome vegetables. Plus, fully circumventing the farmers market means I get to pilfer samples from everyone. BWAHAHA. (These samples kept TLE satisfied for quite awhile!)

Free samples? YES PLEASE.

I saw some really lovely tomatoes and a bunch of Asian herbs that I desperately wanted but knew I had no time to really enjoy properly this week so I passed. Seriously, check out these tomatoes!! The heirlooms next to the Early Girls were even more gorgeous but I didn’t get a really good shot of those.

Tomatoes... gorgeous, aren't they?!

After my first round, I stopped at a vendor to pick up a few pounds of naturally sweet, stone fruit goodness. TLE was very happy to get her chance to dig in to a sweet-tart pluot.

Yummy pluot!

Nomilicious indeed!

Not posing for you, Mommy.

This photo was taken by my point and shoot. I haven’t had made the opportunity to use my dSLR in a long, long time. That makes me sad.

It also makes me sad that it has been quite awhile since I’ve gotten a photo of The Little Empress that I’ve been happy with. I’m not happy with this photo but right now, I’ll take what I can get. Always on the move, TLE has made it quite clear to me that she’s no longer willing to sit still, even for a moment. The second that the camera comes out, she whips about and if I’m lucky, I’ll catch her tail end.

She’s only standing still in this photo because I had the foresight to load a digital copy of Monsters, Inc. (her current favorite movie) on my iPhone. It kept her still for perhaps half a second. Unfortunately, it also gave her a great excuse to avoid the camera. But at least she held still.

TLE eating (more) ice cream. No, this has nothing to do with this entry.

It is no secret that I love photography. I really love it. I must have taken over 5,000 photographs in first two years of The Little Empress’ life. Sadly, the third year of her life doesn’t seem to be as conducive to taking photographs. These days, The Little Empress gladly hams it up for my parents’ and sister’s camphones but when she sees my dSLR come out, she turns tail and hides. Or she sticks her face way into the camera and pokes at the lens. Either way, I’m not getting as many photo opportunities of her as I’d like.

Like most mom-photographers, I’m always behind the lens rather than in front of it. Considering I’m not all that photogenic (see earlier entries for proof of this), I’m fine with this. Usually. But regrettably, that means I am also rarely in the photo with The Little Empress and as a result, aside from the babywearing shots that I’ve taken, I have very few photos of us together. (Those that I do have were taken by the ever wonderful SEEN by Lam and Megs Photography. Alas, I am too broke to visit Cousin Lam and/or to afford Megs at the moment.)

I’ve been searching for an affordable local photographer to work with but am beginning to believe that “affordable” plus “photography” are two words that were never meant to be together in the same phrase.  I’m a freelance writer so believe me when I say that I understand the direct correlation between talent, time spent and prices charged. Now, I’m not asking for free photos but some of the prices that I’m seeing for portrait sessions are just insane. I’ve seen prices upwards of $120+ for just a half hour sitting fee for a mini session. (I mean, seriously? I’d gladly pay that for an hour or more but a half hour? YIKES.) And then there’s how much folks charge for digital images. I saw one photographer charging $85 per digital image, after a $200 print minimum PLUS her session fee.

Maybe this is the industry standard. If so, I guess that the industry is telling me that portrait photography is a privilege like organic produce and sustainably raised meat and isn’t for broke folks like myself.

And while I’m at it, let’s talk about mini-sessions. I researched these as a possible viable alternative to most photographer’s pricey full sessions. While I love the idea of mini sessions, I also have to say that they’re not a good idea for us. Most mini-sessions that photographers in this area offer are twenty to thirty minutes, in a fixed location.  Taking TLE to an unfamiliar place, to meet unfamiliar people, to do something she has to be in the mood for, under a time limit is just asking for trouble. (Unfortunately, TLE’s unpredictability can wreak havoc on even the most well-intentioned outings.)

Maybe I just need to embrace lifeless Walmart portraits. I swear, sometimes I fantasize about starting my own photography business for affordable, quality portraits. Unfortunately, my skill as a photographer is non-existent these days and that still doesn’t solve my initial problem of getting a good portrait with TLE.